Success....What it means to me...

When I read the story about "The Cracked Pot" I can't help but compare myself to the pot. Not that I am cracked mind you, but because in my failures, most of the time, I never gave a thought about the good things that those failures brought me... What is success? Faced with this question people often answer, “It is finally having what you deserve” or “Finally having what you worked so hard for”. Some also say that it is simply a matter of winning. Whatever it is that we think, this is what I’m sure of, we all want success. A person without a will to succeed doesn’t have anything to look forward to but failures. But a person who wants nothing but success will fail at something, somehow. Success doesn’t come everyday to everyone… But it can certainly come anytime to anyone who deserves it.So, again, what is success?? Is it winning? Is it finally getting what you deserve?? When you win does it mean that you succeed? And when you succeed, does it necessarily mean that you've won?? Winning has many faces and succeeding is a state of mind depending on how one sees it. It means that success comes from anything not just winning. All my life, I’ve always viewed success as something everyone deserves. Somehow, as I grew up, that notion changed. In my experiences, I’ve learned that everybody doesn’t deserve success but it will go to those who deserve it. I always felt that I was always doomed to fail at anything that I wanted to do. I don’t know how many times I asked myself the question, “When am I going to succeed in anything that I want to do?” Seems like everything I do, fails when I want desperately for it to succeed. When will I find something that I’m finally good at? Something that I’m sure I’m going to win? Lately, I came to view myself as a big failure. I failed at things I was sure I was going to win at. But somehow that didn't stop me from trying again. I don't know why. Maybe, I just failed too many times that it didn't matter if I lost the next time, which is, I just realized wrong of me to think so. Anyway, it just didn't matter anymore that I most often, take things for granted. I do things just for the sake of doing something. I sometimes tell myself, “Why do I do these things anyway? When I failed the first time and know I'm going to fail the second time, why do I bother to do it again?” I never realized that there was always the thought that maybe I would succeed this time or whenever I failed. Subconsciously, I always thought that maybe I would win the next time and I guess, that’s why there's always the disappointment every time I fail.I agree when they say that in order to succeed, you must be willing to fail. I realized that I wanted so much to win I didn’t think of losing. The reason why I always found myself doing something I knew I wasn’t really good at was because I was determined to try even if I wasn’t expecting to win, which was really good. I guess, that’s what success is all about, setting your mind into something and determined to achieve that goal. You can never say that you’re a failure. In life, it helps to be more optimistic rather than being pessimistic because you won’t achieve anything. When you want to do something, do it. Don’t think that you have to be always right in what you do to say that you succeeded. At least in the end, whether you succeeded or not, you won’t be wondering what might’ve happened if you did what you wanted. Success is getting what you want; happiness is wanting what you get. Don’t make right decisions, but rather wise decisions. Never regret the decisions you have made because at some point, it’s what you wanted. That’s what life is about isn’t it? Being happy…For me, I guess my goal is simply to succeed and as far as I’m concerned, I haven’t failed yet. Maybe somehow, I will also be given the success that I deserve. Maybe it will come when I least expects it, who knows… After all, success is a destination, not a journey, right? :)